I’m here for you

“I’m here for you.”, “My DMs are open.”, “Feel free to talk to me.”

I’m sure most of us have come across people posting some variation of the above phrases. What does it mean to be there for someone ? What can one do to help someone going through a difficult time ? I don’t know. I am not questioning the sincerity of the above phrases. People genuinely want to help but don’t know how. The least we can do is listen to someone, right ? And we want to tell everyone that it’s okay. You don’t have to go through this alone. I’m here for you. You can always talk to me. We want to comfort them to the best of our abilities. 

What if they did talk to us and we brushed it aside ? What if we were too busy to reply and forgot about it ? What if we left them on ‘seen’ because we were bored ? What if we put in such little effort that they didn’t feel like talking more ? We’re all guilty of doing one of the above. It’s important to understand that nobody will be comfortable texting you and saying they’re going through something. Nobody will say “I’m struggling with xyz and I need to talk to you about it”. It’ll be a lot more subtle. It’ll probably be disguised in the form of a mundane small talk. They just want to talk to someone. Get their mind off of whatever it is that’s bothering them. Forget about it even if it’s for a moment. And when they do gather up courage to talk to you and open up just a little, it’s important that we put in some effort in our response. At the end of the day, that’s all we can do. Listen. It doesn’t matter who it is or what they’re texting, we should at least listen to them and make them not regret texting us. 

I ask you not to take your friends and family for granted. You never know what they’re going through. If someone trusts you enough to turn to you when they’re not doing great, don’t let them down. I’m making a conscious effort myself to be a better listener and make people comfortable when they talk to me. To anyone reading this, just know that I will try my best to help you in any way I can and that includes listening to whatever you have to say. I’m here for you.

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